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[astralera]

Hello,

I have a question I am hoping someone might be able to answer.

You know a person who makes you feel safe, comfortable, and relaxed. Whose presence makes you feel warm and content. A person you wish to see smile, and whenever they do it makes you so very happy. Who you are always excited to see and spend time with.

This person who also makes your insides flutter uncomfortably, like the feeling you have when you wish to punch someone in the face very badly, though you have no actual desire to punch them at that particular moment. Who can aggravate you like no other in the span of a single breath, yet also calm your fury just as effortlessly. A person you cannot fathom being absent from your life.

What would you call that kind of person?


My thanks for any insight you can offer.

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[astralera]

Some form of romantic love.

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[sweetlies]

[Five

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Fifteen minutes pass before he answers. That's not suspicious, right?]

I'm sure your experience and answer will be appreciated.

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[astralera]

I hope it will be of more use to others than is has been to myself.

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[sweetlies]

Not the answer you were looking for, I'm guessing?

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[astralera]

It is an answer, but I would still hesitate to call it the correct one.

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[sweetlies]

That's the problem with questions in a public venue: you'll get answers you don't like. Perhaps someone else will tell you another possibility though.

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[astralera]

Perhaps. I will not hold my breath, however.

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[sweetlies]

Best not to. If no one has offered anything better by weeks end, I would say there is no better one to be had. Then begins the fun of finding what you do with that answer.

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[clickertraining]

idk about the fluttery insides part

but i'd call them a best friend!

[Joe, you are not helping.]

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[astralera]

Would you? I am familiar with the feeling of having a best friend and it not quite like this, though admittedly it does differ between each friend.

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[astralera]

I suppose that would be the wisest course of action.

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[sweetlies]

I do genuinely wish you luck. And I appreciate you sharing what you were told. It's enlightening.

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[abracafcku]

[Ooooooooooooooh my gods.]

Exactly as it says on the tin. You need to put yourself first, pour all that attention you want to put into someone who is not worth it right now into yourself. I mean, it's like VERY OBVI you're in love with this dude, but just 'cause you might love 'em doesn't mean they're good for you, you know? If they don't make you better, complete you in a way that makes that ache inside quieter? Dump. His. Ass.

Not saying you're not going to have fights even with The One, but he shouldn't make you want to punch his face in or like...not regret killing his ass. No matter how fine that ass might be.

Do what's right for you, even if it means taking the harder path.

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[astralera]

[ she is just not going to address that 'put yourself first' bit because hahaha ha ha ha ... ]

To 'dump' someone would imply 'dating' them in the first place, which we are not, and will not, and cannot do. We are diametrically opposed down to our very cores and the gods we are bound to.

He is not 'The One', whatever that may be.

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[abracafcku]

You can dump a friend, dump am enemy, dump a truck on someone - the way you talk about them it's pretty obvious how you feel, even if you've put blinders on for whatever reason.

You know what you need to do.

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[astralera]

I appreciate the insight you have shared with me.

[ a.k.a. she has no idea what she needs to do ]

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[clickertraining]

yup!!

but if it doesn't sound right to you i guess that's no good... sounds like you like them a whole lot tho!

[astralera]

An incomprehensibly long time ago our souls were the best of friends. Most recently we have been enemies.

[clickertraining]

oops. um... sorry about that [ A pause. ]

WAIT I GOT IT!!!!

YOU'RE FRENEMIES

[astralera]

'Frenemies'?

[clickertraining]

yeah! you said you were friends before but now you're enemies right?

put em together and you've got frenemies!

[astralera]

Both at once? How strange.

[clickertraining]

guess it is kinda weird. I'm not sure what it's like to have a person like that

but maybe it'll work for you!