text | locked from the not-platonic not-enemy

[astralera]

Hello,

I hope everyone has been taking care, and continues to do so in the coming weeks.

I have a question some of you may be able to answer: What is it that people tend to or are meant to do when they are together?

Together in the non-platonic sense of the word, that is.

I am trying to understand how it differs from platonic togetherness, as there seems to be a distinct difference. I know little to nothing of such matters, and thus am seeking base knowledge from which to build upon.

If it matters, the context from which I am asking is that of a woman who is together with a man. Or at least one who is currently male in form and identifying as such. So for sake of simplicity we will refer to this as a hetero-normative

togetherness.


My thanks.

Comments

[astralera]

So the point of it is to have fun whilst bringing men to orgasm?

[necromanswers]

think of it as a partnership. if he doesn't get YOU to orgasm by the time you're both done? he failed to do his part.

but yeah that's the idea

[astralera]

Women can experience orgasm?

[necromanswers]

[what

WHAT

WHAT!!!]

jesus tapdancing fantasy christ

I'm really pissed off on your behalf right now

[astralera]

My apologies. I did not mean to upset you.

[necromanswers]

I'm not upset I'm pissed

[there's! a difference!]

ok but for real women can ABSOLUTELY experience that and you can and should expect that out of sex

if your partner finishes before you and doesn't make sure you enjoy it before it's over, fuck that guy

fuck as in ditch not sex obv

[astralera]

It is nothing to be pissed over. I am likely an exception to the norm.

All my memory I have been a weapon, focused on strengthening myself in combat that I might better protect those I love. Intimacy has never been something I've had any interest in. Why would I waste precious time learning of it?

I know all myriad of ways to kill or incapacitate someone. I am deeply familiar with the anatomy of humans in order to both harm and heal. But to gain knowledge with which to bring enjoyment and pleasure to someone I care for would be interesting; a significant change from what I am accustomed to.

For all that I hate this place, it does offer the time and circumstance with which to try learning the discipline of romantic intimacy.

May I ask what you mean by 'finish'?

[necromanswers]

oh you're one of those huh

[She knows the type. All work and no play because DUTY CALLS... she's seen enough heroes and adventurers and she's lived that life a few decades, too. It's not ideal. It's not healthy.]

for what it's worth I don't think it's a waste of time. learning intimacy, how to touch or hold someone or do something for them for the single purpose of making them happy? or letting other people do that for you? it's integral. it's the difference between living and just existing. living creatures aren't meant to be weapons. I hope you can use the time here wisely and experience it.

[A pause between messages, and then-]

finish means orgasm

consider also: cum, get off, the big O, climax

[astralera]

I have always made others happy in different ways, and have always been satisfied with doing so. Even now, I am content with how things have always been. I exist solely for my duty, and it brings me great joy to fulfill it.



My thanks for the explanation.

I feel no concern over possible mistreatment, for if I were to take interest in the acts of primal intimacy my partner would not be wont to treat me unfairly.

[necromanswers]

to each his own I guess, but to me that sounds like you're missing out on a huge part of life

like you said, how can you know what you want if you don't know what you can have?

anyway so long as you believe that he'll consider your needs, then no matter what you get up to, you should be fine. and the fun part of doing it is finding out what you DO like. discover new things! experiment! love is an adventure

[astralera]

I have no time for such things, and succeeding in my duties brings me incomparable fulfillment.

He is very considerate. It is frustrating, yet I am appreciative all the same. He knows of my aversion to touch and is respectful of it. It is enough that I am now comfortable with touch when it is him.

From what I have gathered, he is ambivalent toward physical intimacy. Still, I believe my making an effort and being willing to try new things would be something he may appreciate, as well as express my gratitude to some extent.

I just have known nothing beyond the most basic of concepts. A chaste kiss, or a quick hug. The leaning of my weight against his arm, or my tail curled against his leg. I had not considered this hanky panky you speak of; the touching his bare flesh, or allowing him to explore mine.

[necromanswers]

[There's no fixing the duty-bound overnight- she knows this well. Might as well bash her head against a brick wall for all the good it'll do. And if they're happy with that sort of life, who is she to judge? Even if it sounds shitty and laser-focused, free will isn't something one can just ignore.

What is more effective, she finds, is to allow them to discover new and unrelated experiences that might fulfill them. So rather than arguing, she simply refocuses.]

so now that you're considering that sort of thing, how does it make you feel? are you excited? uncomfortable? still deciding?

[astralera]

I am curious.

[necromanswers]

That's good, then! It's a good start. Best thing you can do is sit down with him and have an honest conversation about what both of your wants and needs are, and see where they line up. Then you'll get a better idea of where to go from here.

[astralera]

I cannot imagine where they would line up, though I could not imagine ever being in such a situation in the first place, and so it is something worth discussion regardless.

[necromanswers]

that's the spirit. won't know till you ask!

[astralera]

I suppose I shall do that. My thanks for the advice you've given me.

[necromanswers]

No problemo. have fun with it, and if you have any trouble, just holler in my direction.

[HAVE GOOD SEX if you decide to have sex in a healthy consensual manner eyyyy~]

[astralera]

Might I have your name?

[necromanswers]

oh shit that's right I forgot how to people

I'm Lup!

[astralera]

I should have introduced myself first.

Well met, Lup. I am Era.

[necromanswers]

In your defense, seems like you've got a lot on your mind right now.

[astralera]

That is no excuse to forget proper manners. Or so my father's staff would say.

But I imagine he would have more concern over these current feelings for my mortal enemy than my lack of manners.

[necromanswers]

[....

o m g]

okay, you can't just drop a bomb like that and not give a few more details. mortal enemy?

[astralera]

He seeks to sacrifice the worlds under my protection in order to restore his own.

His will is bound to the will of the deity Zodiark, who is the opposing force to my deity, Hydaelyn.

Not so very long ago we fought, and I killed him.

There is more to it, but I believe that sums it up simply enough.